Well I had surgery last thursday and leading up to it I wasn't physically able to cut my grass. I asked my neighbor, who is intellectually challenged, if he would cut my grass and I'd pay him $20. He turned me down. He had cut his yard the day before but said he needed to finish his own yard. He doesn't have a weedeater and always borrows mine so I don't know what else he was planning to do to his own yard. I pointed out that my yard is about half as big as his yard and he'd be done in 20 minutes. He just balked and didn't want to do it. Well this is the same guy that I've cut HIS yard about half a dozen times THIS YEAR. All for the promise of $20. Some times he comes through and pays and sometimes he only gives me $10 or $12 which is all he says he has and I never see the rest. No biggie I've gotten use to it. And he is a neighbor. Just last week he needed my impact to remove the bolts so he could change out his rear bumper. When I say he needed my impact I mean I cranked up my air compressor, ran out my air hose, crawled under his truck and took out the bolts. No pay not even a beer. Two weeks ago he wanted me to put on a pair of rear shocks on his truck and he'd pay me $30 I was like fine but we'd have to do it after 6 or 7 o'clock. He found someone else to do it and paid them. He's bought two sets of seats for his truck in the last two months. Even after I point out the seats won't work he still proceeds to take out his old seat and recruits me to help him get the new ones in the cab. I realize no matter how you tell him he can't understand it won't work until he sees it. The second set was identical to the first except the color. I continue to help this guy and even though he knew I had surgery he refused and refuses to help me. I think it time to cut the ties. What say you. Oh by the way I convinced another friend who has a big zero turn to come cut it. so it's done.
hjm12161
Not to sound like an as* but I wouldn't help him do a dam* thing....not sure where you live, but if you need help with anything and are close to humble tx just shoot me a pm....I know it's hard to get things done after surgery....
I would be done helping him at all. Sucks since he is a neighbor but fair is fair.
Good luck..
Good luck..
Is his wife or sister hot? Something is causing you to be too nice to him. Time to cut the cord.
My neighbors help me, I help them. Sometimes we mow each others yard or spray week killer etc... I'd say it's more like a family around here. No money exchanges hands, not really offered.
Only a thank you or some cold beverages.
Now if I ask the neighbors son next door to mow then I pay.
Way to much drama like mentioned before with the 20 here, or 30 there... only paying half etc...
But like Tommy said, tell him to take a hike.
Only a thank you or some cold beverages.
Now if I ask the neighbors son next door to mow then I pay.
Way to much drama like mentioned before with the 20 here, or 30 there... only paying half etc...
But like Tommy said, tell him to take a hike.
From now on, when he asks for anything, just smile and tell him you're still recovering from your surgery.
Intellectually challenged =stupid. You just can’t fix stupid.
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I wouldn't be as willing to give up my free time to help the guy but at the same time it's nice to have neighbors you are friendly with.
You say he is a little special, you think maybe nobody ever talked to him straight and explained that helping each other out as neighbors is a two way street? Maybe you need to spell it out for him and let him know you are disappointed and really needed his help. One of two things will happen, he will gain a new understanding and will be more willing to help you or he will get mad and will quit talking to you and quit asking for your help. Either way the problem is solved.
You say he is a little special, you think maybe nobody ever talked to him straight and explained that helping each other out as neighbors is a two way street? Maybe you need to spell it out for him and let him know you are disappointed and really needed his help. One of two things will happen, he will gain a new understanding and will be more willing to help you or he will get mad and will quit talking to you and quit asking for your help. Either way the problem is solved.
Sounds like the old "give and take" relationship.
You do all the giving and he does all of the taking.
Next time he asks for help, tell him "no" and explain why you are not going to help him.
You do all the giving and he does all of the taking.
Next time he asks for help, tell him "no" and explain why you are not going to help him.
Op I think Mark pretty much sums it up as it sounds like it’s come to having to do this. It happens on occasion and no it’s not a pretty picture to paint but it’s real world. You can’t let him get over on you or your family much less get in your your head anymore. Just let him be after you burn his house down and get the strippers and coke.
Pretty much how I handled a neighbor one time I did it exactly like that too. It worked, I guess he saw the error of his ways and I never had the same issues with him again, in fact he became a great neighbor.
TH
Yes, I was thinking something along the same line, if I read alant's post correct.
intellectually challenged =are you saying he is truley mentally challenged as in a handicap learning disability? If this is the case, let it go he may not know any better.
I have a rule not to lend tools out to folks I do not want to get to know, I have a couple on my block. It works out fine for me.
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