Paul, my wife was a high risk pregnancy, and we were EXTREMELY scared about something like what has happened to your family would happen to us. The first time my wife got pregnant, we lost the baby somewhere around 4-6 weeks. I shared your pain at that time and you have my sympathies. I do not know you, but if you need some sort of help from me, please ask.
Fortunately, this time (she is pregnant now) our story is a positive one. But until my son is born, I'm still nervous about every little thing my wife does and every little symptom she has.
Nik, I'm not picking on you, but if you're wondering where people are at sometimes, this is where we are!